The guy I've been seeing for 12-8 months (depending on how you look at it), is moving to NYC for grad school in two days (ironic, isn't it?). So I've been spending the last week or so licking my wounds and trying to be helpful, stay sober, and in some way or another, remain positive. But I am very blue about it, and on top of just losing someone I really care about --- I am also having a personal crisis of my own. Like, what the fuck am I doing with my life? In the past I have set my sights on graduate school, or a lofty writing goal, some sense of adventure that seemed infallible, or the love of a man, but right now I don't have any of those things. I can list off all the things I do have, and I do feel really lucky for the family/friends/cats/housing/health that I have but at the same time, I still have that endless void inside that only gets covered, and never filled.
So I need advice! So should I just get another desk job? Should I reconsider graduate school once again? Should I travel? Should I teach English in some crazy part of the world?
My question is: If you suddenly lost your job and your relationship, but you had a somewhat hefty severance package and a totally empty plate, what would you do?
I will consider anything.
4 comments:
do something that leads you on a farther/grander/more selfless path than you ever thought you'd go. You'll enjoy and find meaning in whatever path you take.
While Cheryl has some great advice, you could ALSO spend your severance on completely selfISH things and just spoil yourself. Then, when you only have a months rent left in your bank account, find a job. Maybe a little bit of self-indulgence will lead to some self-actualization.
I would travel, hands down (and I'd include teaching English in random countries in that category. A friend of mine was in Istanbul through TEFL or whatever and wants to go back). It's easiest to do that kind of thing when you're young and your roots are not deep. I don't know anyone who's come back uninspired from traveling.
Or do something that just plain challenges/scares you, like bungee jumping or skydiving or something.
Definitely look into teaching abroad! I just finished up a year in South Korea and am now in Istanbul. It's a wonderful way to make sure your life is anything but boring.
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